I didn’t sit down one day and decide to have higher standards. It just… happened, slowly, over time. Things I would have tolerated before started to feel off.Conversations that went nowhere.Commitments that drained more than they gave.People who took more than they offered. Nothing dramatic.Just a quiet shift in what felt worth it – and…
I used to think I needed a reason for everything. A good one.Something that made sense to other people.Something that wouldn’t be questioned. Why I couldn’t make something.Why I didn’t want to do something.Why I was stepping back. It felt easier to explain it than to just say it. But at some point, that changed….
For a long time, work was just… what I did. It filled the week.It gave structure.It gave a sense of purpose. And if I’m honest, I was good at it. Reliable.Capable.The one who got things done. You don’t question that when it’s working.You just carry on. But somewhere along the way, it becomes more than…
I spent years thinking I was just getting on with things. Working, managing, holding it all together – doing what needed to be done.No drama. No fuss. Just life. And for a long time, that felt like strength. What I didn’t realise was how much of it was just… coping. You don’t question it when…
The Notebook Some ideas begin as questions rather than answers. This is a collection of thoughts, observations, and ideas worth exploring. Clarity rarely arrives when you’re looking for it.It shows up when you finally stop adding to the problem. There’s a difference between thinking something throughand thinking yourself in circles. The more capable you are,the…
On a Lighter Note… The lighter side of everyday life. Small observations, familiar moments, and the kind of humour that reminds us not to take everything too seriously. When your Automatic Bin Sets the Bar Unreasonably High – I’m not against relationships. I’m simply struggling to identify a vacancy…
Life & Perspective Everyday moments, quiet observations, and the lessons that often reveal themselves with time. Thoughtful reflections on life as it is, not as we expect it to be.
Clarity A collection of articles exploring clearer thinking, quieter decisions, and a more considered way of living. Thoughtful perspectives to help you cut through the noise and focus on what matters. If you’re feeling stuck and want clarity on your own situation, you can explore that here.
I’m not against relationships. I’m simply struggling to identify a vacancy. This occurred to me while standing in the kitchen admiring my new automatic bin. It opens when I approach, accepts whatever rubbish I give it and quietly closes again. It doesn’t interrupt, offer an unsolicited opinion or ask what’s for dinner. Frankly, it’s difficult…
Drink what you actually like. There was a time when I thought I should like certain wines. I’d go to tastings, listen to the descriptions and wonder what on earth everyone else was tasting. Apparently there were notes of blackberry, leather, tobacco and the faint aroma of an oak barrel that had spent twenty years…